Love is one of the greatest feelings that this universe has bestow upon us.
Love for our family, our bf/gf, friends, pets, but we forget the most important love of all, self-love.
You can’t truly love someone unless you truly love yourself; I truly do believe in that very much.
These 5 tips will open the way on how to love yourself more than you can imagine:
- You must be selfish.
- Accept who you are.
- Take care of your body.
- Take care of your mind.
- Practice self complements.
How To Love Yourself Infinitely And Unconditionally Forever
Love is universal.
Without it, life wouldn’t have much meaning; To some a life without love would be meaningless and not really worth living.
There are 3 kinds of love.
The first being loved by someone.
The second is loving someone.
And the third is self-love, which I believe is the most important.
Life can be rough, especially if you’ve never had a bf/gf, sex, intimate relationships, and have social anxiety or you’re not self-conscious about yourself.
Take it from me, I’m almost 27 years old and I just experienced some of these and was able to gain the confidence in myself to go out and meet someone but for 26 years I never truly loved anyone until I learned how to actually love myself first.
We will be covering the 5 tips above to help you achieve this life that’s fill with full of love, starting with you.
1. You Must Be Selfish
It’s not bad, in fact being selfish will get you far in life.
1.1 A Life Lesson
When I was in my teens and early adulthood, I was the kind person.
I always helped people: gave money to those without much hesitation: did favors and gave my time to them.
Well, that lasted for a few years.
I really thought that I could change people for the better, but the cold reality is, people won’t change just because you did one or five favors/things for them.
A killer will remain a killer, a thief will remain a thief, and so on until something super drastic happens in their life or they are put in jail.
Anyways, I stopped giving my money away, helping people, and doing favors. (I still help people as much as I can but wisely and in a way I don’t lose anything).
People take kindness as a weakness and will use that to their advantage, BELIEVE ME, I’ve personally experience this not once, twice, but at least 7 times!
1.2 Where Is Your Energy
Here’s the thing about energy.
If you focus your time and energy onto other people and things, then you have less or none for yourself.
Therefore you can’t grow or mature like someone who gives all their time and energy to themselves.
Do you think successful people and the rich actually go out of their way to help people?
Some do and some don’t, but if they do, they know for sure they are not losing time, money, and resources.
Take all the energy you have and refocus it on yourself.
Stop worrying about little things that have no significant meanings to your life or goals.
What do you want in this life?
Money, fame, girls/guys, cars, etc.
Then go for it, the only thing or person stopping you is you!
There are billions of people suffering in this world as we speak.
Unfortunately they are the unfortunate ones but eating the 32 ounce steak in front of you isn’t going to solve world hunger or make money rain from the heavens.
Do whatever the hey you want in this life, because you have one life and it’s not worth the time, effort, and energy to be worrying about others.
Just make sure you don’t hurt anyone else for your own selfish ways.
As you focus and devote more time and energy unto yourself, you can expect these great things to happen:
- Learn more about yourself
- Get more work done
- Reach your dreams and goals faster
- Care more about yourself
- Be grateful for who you are
- Be thankful for what you have and don’t have
- And then eventually you will become so great that you will want to help others
Key Take Away
Once you have become successful and have the life you dream of, then do help and educate the poor.
2. Accept Who You Are
2.1 Better Now Than Never
I’m going to state the obvious but not everyone was born the way they wanted.
Without research or facts, I can bet that everyone in this world at one time or another has wanted to change something about themselves.
Am I right, or correct?
For almost 23-24 years, I really hated myself, or dislike the way I looked and acted.
I was shorter than most of my friends and I still am, my face was covered in acne and red spots for over 12 years and even still now I get some red spots, and never noticeable large pores and indented pitted acne scars on my face.
My nose isn’t the most beautiful nose, and I have ichthyologist on my legs and arms, and the worst thing about me was the fact that I was always a pessimistic.
World Bank states that 15% of the world population are born with a mental or physical disability.
At least for me I didn’t have a disability.
Most of us have it better than a lot of people.
If you can walk, talk, see, hear, use the computer, and so forth then you are very fortunate.
The more we want something that we can’t have, the more miserable we become.
I notice that just from experience: now I travel the world so I only have 2 luggage with me.
Do you think I can fit a car, stereo, TV, and whatever it is that people like?
I’ve learned to appreciate not only what I have but also what I don’t have and to make the what I haves stand out more rather than focus on people who are more attractive or have more things than me.
To be honest, the more things I have, the more miserable I’ve become.
The less I have, the happier I am.
I have already truly appreciated myself, my health, this life, and the bright future that I will write for myself, but of course this took time to realize.
More people, more stuff, more work just means more problems and less focus on me.
I decided to let go of whatever problems I had and all the negativity in my life.
You know, for 24 years I lived that way.
Nothing good really happen to me and I was kind of miserable existing, I wasn’t actually living!
I surrender to myself and mentally and physically told myself that I accept and appreciate the way I look and that I needed to look to the bright side of everything.
Well as the few years past, I could see changes in me and my roommates and friends saw it too.
2.2 Change For the Better
What actually made me change was one of my roommates. (Let’s just say their name was Taylor)
Taylor was always complaining, cussing, making excuses for everything, didn’t have a stable job, always negative, and so forth.
Taylor ate and drank whatever Taylor wanted, talk foully to Taylor’s own young kids, never paid the rent on time, dirty and lived like a bum almost.
Even though Taylor was my roommate for a year, after 6 months of seeing that, I grew tire and realize just how awful it was to live like that but Taylor was exactly like me but WORSE!
That person was over 50 years old and I was 25 years old.
If I had not change that day then 25 years later would I have been exactly like that person?
I thought I was negative and miserable, but Taylor took it to a new level.
There’s always someone who has it better or worse than you.
Life will be much easier if you just learn to accept who and what you are.
I couldn’t accept the fact that I was that negative and how toxic my way of living was.
If you are going through the same situation as me, then please change for the better.
Key Take Away
If you know that you are harming yourself by hurting your body and mind physically or mentally then change right now. The longer you wait the worst it becomes and maybe you will never change because you decide to procrastinate.
3. Take care of your body.
3.1 Eat Good, Exercise Good, Feel Good
You are what you eat.
Junk food, process meats, sugar, salt, simple carbohydrates, and so on taste delicious and makes you feel happy.
If you eat these foods all the time, of course you will gain weight, age faster, feel tire and grumpy, develop illness and some type of cancer, and so on.
Feeding your body with healthy foods like vegetables, fruits, nuts, oils, and so forth will make your body look good, feel good, have more energy, feel alive and want to move and go out.
If you have some sort of physical or mental illness or issue that can be fix and you are too lazy or uneducated to fix the issue, then is that not your fault?
The internet is so vast, you can literally find the answer to many questions.
If the problem or issue can’t be fix then accept it and move on.
You already have the problem and have to live with it, may as well use it to your advantage rather than think about the problem and be miserable all day.
Not enough time to work out?
20-30 minutes of intense exercise 4-6 times a week is better than 45-90 minutes of medium exercise 3-5 times a week.
Working out makes you feel good.
It release stress, gets you in shape, improves your immune system, makes you confidence, makes you more attractive, and so on.
When you work and put in the effort for the body that you have, you will feel good about yourself and will be more attracted to yourself.
When you accomplish a goal or a big task, don’t you feel good?
Do the same but for you, make goals about your body or about you and fix it for the better.
Do you really think overweight people actually feel and look better than fit people?
If they do then more power to them because it really only matters if you care, but a person that’s in shape will more than likely feel better than someone not.
3.2 One Body, One Life
Society frowns upon tattoos, piercing, dye hair, irregular clothing style, and many other things.
There are rules that we have to follow as a society but if society is holding you back from happiness, and doing what you want to yourself, then don’t pay attention to society.
If you want to have plastic surgery, dye your hair blue and yellow, cross dress, or be covered in ink then that’s your choice.
I honestly don’t give 2 swats about how society thinks about me as an individual.
If they can’t appreciate me at my best then they won’t be able to handle me at my worst.
You have one life to do whatever you want.
Numerous things require money and the bigger the dream the more work and money you need, so plan out your life according.
If you want riches, fame, power, and the big life; then you have to put more work and effort.
If you want a simple, humble, comfortable, and little life; then you don’t need to do anything because even the poorest can achieve that.
Key Take Away
So live and look however you want too and make sure that the only person who cares about how you look is yourself. Living a healthy lifestyle will make life even more enjoyable.
4. Take care of your mind.
4.1 Power Of Meditation
They say a healthy body produces a healthy mind.
Your mind is like a garden, what you sow you will reap.
So only plant positivity and encouraging words and thoughts into your mind.
If you really want to take care of your mind, then I highly highly highly recommend you to study and practice meditation.
Meditating on how to love yourself will help wonders.
Think about how great and wonderful you are.
Feel the chill running up and down your spine and awaken those goosebumps.
This feeling is healthy and feels great, especially if you can do it at will.
Meditation has been known to improve so much physically and mentally both for the body and mind.
Meditation allows you to connect within and improve yourself therefore you will eventually understand and love yourself. (or love yourself more)
It is one of if not the best way to understand and appreciate yourself which will lead to self love if you do not already love yourself.
4.2 The Greatest Weapon
Your mind is one of the most powerful weapon in the world.
I don’t think you know how powerful your mind can be, it is the controller of your every action and thoughts.
It has the power to make you happy, sad, angry, violent, etc. in a snap of a finger.
You can become instantly happy, sad, or angry whenever you want, if you know how to master your mind.
Your mind can have a mind of its own.
But once you are the master of your mind and you tell it what to do and when to do it, I promise you will see and experience new and amazing things.
There is another world beyond this physical world that lies dormant inside your mind.
(If you want to know about it then search “opening the third eye”.)
Your brain tells you it wants you to smoke cigarettes, eat fried chicken, and drink coffee every day because you have wired it to such thoughts based on daily or weekly habits.
When that feeling, dopamine is released (just a little, but a little x 10,000 is a lot!) it’s super hard to quit feeling good habits because dopamine gives you pleasureand you can’t stop craving that pleasurable feeling.
Meditation and focus will help to control this type of behavior that many of us fall prey too.
Practice resistance and control your desires and wants.
Key Take Away
Of course it takes time, maybe 1-50 years, but little progress is better than none at all, and what matters is that you try and don’t give up.
5. Practice You
5.1 Give Yourself Compliments Everyday
Every house has a mirror or 50.
Each time you pass the mirror, look at yourself and complement yourself.
Each morning and evening you have a good 5-10 minutes of brushing your teeth, washing your face, shaving, putting on cremes and lotion.
Use this time to tell yourself aloud or in your mind positive things about yourself, or even things that you want to do or goals you want to reach.
You can say things like, “You look good”, “You are an amazing person”, “You can do it”, etc.
It may sound corny but believe me the power of subconscious words and thinking is so powerful.
There is this amazing book call The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale.
Try it for a few months and see how your life will change!
5.2 Give Time To Yourself Each Day
The best time spend is you time.
That includes: exercising, meditating, improving on a problem you have, learning new things to better yourself, and anything that will make you a better person.
Do this everyday and ENJOY the moment.
When the most difficult time comes and no one is there for you, there is someone who will always be there for you, and that’s you.
Don’t depend on others and other’s surely don’t depend on you.
You must learn how to love and accept yourself so you enjoy every moment of life and live how you want.
I can guarantee you that someone who loves themselves will get farther than someone who doesn’t like themselves.
You are your own best friend; no one truly knows you more than you do yourself.
Each person you meet will know you differently from another person but only you can know who you truly are, or do you?
If you don’t then it’s time to put this guide into practice.
Key Take Away
As unbelievable as it sounds; you can always learn more about yourself and improve. In order to do so you will have to give time to yourself each day. Make you the best you that you can.
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